Shoga's Babe

                                      Dating That 'Bad' Guy

I have decided to take a chance off Mr Shoga this time around. For newcomers, Mr Shoga is my 'boo' we have something and at the same time, I tackle what I feel is not necessary on his part.

Shoga has  a way of feeling like he has everything kempt and prim when it comes to a relationship. Well, he's been a good guy but trust me he has been a badddddddddddddd guy to some ladies. Secretly, I have this fear that something might come up some day, like a revenge plan from one the girls he has cheated on and broken but I pray they all move well and fast in life that they forget him totally.

So, Let me speak about the fears of dating a man that has once been a 'bad guy' and now has a good girl and has decided to turn a new leaf. Girls in my category will know that this isn't a funny thing because everything might just point to the past. When he wooed me, he got my attention, well, I did a little bit of the ladies' stuff but trust me as an expert in women affairs he caught my attention and we started dating. For five months I didn't disclose my relationship status to anyone because I felt he might screw up. I know someone will accuse me of liking a bad boy but hey, he hit the right words, he was sincere and very smart. He proved to be very sensitive also. A woman wants a man that is very sensitive to her needs. I don't need to talk all the time.

It was smooth but those 5 months, I struggled with being chaste. I mean, we had a great fight over that. He wanted Sex and I didn't want it. I am an old school girl and I believe I should own up on my wedding night that's like the best stuff for me to do and this isn't about anyone it's about me. I made that decision a long time ago.  The problem is, how would a man who has been active all his life stay chaste till God knows when we'll get married? And guess what I didn't allow him get beyond the neck so it was torture for him.


He had to learn to be chaste because this relationship demands chastity. I am a woman and I hold his head, wherever I turn it, it goes and that goes to you out there sister, If you pity him and let him, you will feel defeated with your willpower but you hold that decision like no other and please, be firm with it. Has he cried over that? Look at you? Countless times and I am glad that I didn't chicken out. Anyway, We will be tying the knot soon(That's why he has been so busy trying to get things together and on my end, I am too, I had to sneak out time to do this).

Now, the last story about the Zion girl and all that transpired between them made me mad. Hey sister, Imagine how Shoga described the girl and tell me if you were me, you wouldn't be mad? He wrote about how daring, calculative she was and mehn, I think reading that story again made me question so many things even though he has answered but Let me voice this out.

I wondered if he really didn't go further with that woman, I trust him but hey, she's daring right? and I keep wondering why he started what he knew he didn't want to have and men do this a lot. You know you don't want to have anything to do with someone and you keep pressing the buttons. Why?

I think men think with their heart rather than their head even though they accuse women of such most times. Why would you go for what you knew you didn't want to engage in? Jeeeez! Let me have a break because that statement, 'Babe, I didn't know what I was thinking' makes no sense in this world again. Even babies are intentional...

I will continue next week.
Once again, I am Shoga's Bae